When you said your vows, you swore to love and support your husband in sickness and in health. The chances are, when you said you’d help him through sickness, you were thinking diabetes, not drug addiction. You need to be there to support your husband every step of the way. But what you don’t have to do is make his addiction your problem. Because the truth is, it’s not your problem, it’s his.
That being said, it doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t help him. What it means is that you need to stay strong, and ensure that you’re not enabling his addiction. You need to tell him straight up that there is no excuse for taking drugs, regardless of what’s going on in his life. Explain that you want to help and support him, but that ultimately, it’s him that has to want to quit.
The question is, what can you do to actively help your husband beat his drug addiction?
The first thing that you need to do is gain knowledge about drug addiction so that you understand what your husband is going through. If you don’t properly understand the problem, you won’t be able to give your partner the support he needs. You need to research enabling, as well as addiction itself. So that you can understand how you’ve been enabling his addiction. For example, if your husband developed heart disease, you’d do research to find out as much about the condition as possible. You’d stop buying fatty and sugary snacks, and would make lifestyle changes as a family, to help him beat his illness. Well, the same mindset is needed for overcoming drug addiction, as just like heart disease, it’s an illness.
Ask for help
Often, because drug addiction can be stigmatized in society, many spouses of drug addicts don’t reach out for help. Don’t make the same mistake, if your partner is addicted to drugs, you need help. Don’t be embarrassed to get the help that is needed, as else things will only get worse. Start off by talking to the people you trust the most – your friends and family. Don’t worry about your partner being judged, anyone who cares about you won’t judge or gossip, and will do everything that they can to help. As well as telling your nearest and dearest, there are also plenty of addiction treatment facilities that you can turn to for help and support.
Standing by your husband when he’s addicted to drugs will most probably lead to lots of negativity from the local community. Don’t give into it, harness your strength and be strong. Let any nasty or negative comments go over your head, instead, focus on the positive side of things. Sticking by your partner and helping him through his addiction is a wonderful thing to do. It might be hard, but one day your husband will thank you for staying strong.
Helping your husband beat his addiction won’t be easy, but it’s worth making the effort to help him. After all, you swore to stand by him no matter what.